Being too accommodating in a relationship Webcamxxxgirls
Next year will it be as important to me as it is today?
When I am old one day, would I really remember this particular disagreement? If only I could hear between the words, listen carefully to the tone of voice and read the other’s expression without projecting my own issues, fears and wants, I could possibly get hold of the fear driving their anger and be able to say something to them that will give them some peace and respite. At the end of the day, I think that there is only one question.
Not get caught in the tornado that this person creates and sucked into space to come crashing down afterwards.
Unfortunately, when I am confronted with a situation that requires a solution, I get trapped by that old demon of being right and being heard.
I draw a line quickly and if you cross it, well that’s it for our relationship. As an adult, I have grown to believe that things are not random, that people are in my life for a reason.
When I was younger, I was just too nice and accommodating and that allowed people around me really take advantage of me. My feelings were always sacrificed for another’s happiness or needs. How am I going to find out what the reason is if I don’t allow the relationship to develop? Where do you draw the line between accommodating others and being abused.
Also, being truthful can only be in relation to yourself.
For example, you are arguing with your spouse about them being selfish supporting this with certain events that have happened and their behaviour.
Let’s say that your colleague is trying to outdo you to get a promotion and they are spreading rumours about you. It is not helpful to be cruel, demeaning, rude, bitchy, bossy, bullying, spiteful, hurtful, horrible, selfish, and vengeful.
I don’t have the answer, but following Buddha’s advice, I would keep my mouth shut and not say a word and let the scenario play itself out.
Conflict certainly tests those boundaries and confrontation is never easy.
People are generally not aware of what they say or how they behave.
Search for being too accommodating in a relationship:
She was with someone that was pretty controlling and didn't let her hang out with friends.