Dating doesnt want gf
Maybe it's from the daily joints I smoked my entire sophomore year of high school, or maybe it's just that I'm getting old and with each year, the details of my adolescence fade more and more into just one visceral But you know what memory is as clear as day? It's been 15 years since I was 15, and she's been right every time she proclaims someone "gets me" or doesn't "get me."Now, I nervously hold my breath before I introduce her to someone I'm into, legs shaking in anticipation as if I'm waiting to hear if I made it to round two of "The Voice," or something. And now that I'm a little older and a little bit wiser (haphazard dating experiences will age you worse than the sun), I can feel when someone gets me.
The first time my mother told me the person I was dating didn't "get" me. I'm a 15-year-old goth, dressed in ripped fishnets and doc martins in a sea of Juicy Couture and butterfly clips. He is two years older than me, has one of those spiked, "Sonic the Hedgehog" haircuts that are all the rage in the suburban "skater boi" scene. I watch my mother's apathetic eyes hone in on the pleather chain wallet he had left behind. It feels like breathing a sigh of relief when your credit card goes through when you're blowing half a paycheck on designer shoes.
But I've learned that, in this life, sometimes feelings can really screw with your head. Toss sexual attraction and a deep-rooted need to impress into the mix, and it can be hard to tell what the hell is what.
I dated someone who thought just because we all like to dress up, we're judgmental and money-obsessed. Cause I'm a Barrie girl, just like you're a (insert last name here) girl. As vastly different in personality and career as my eclectic group of friends are, they all share a common thread: They're all beautiful, kind people on the inside.They won't see the intricate emotional nuances behind what outer emotions you're throwing out there.If you're being sarcastic, they'll think you're being dead serious and take offense.She will know I'm just trying to make a good impression and am feeling shy and intimidated, so I'm overcompensating.A person who doesn't get you takes absolutely everything you say at face-value.